“Not everything that is faced can be changed. But nothing can be changed until it is faced.” – James Baldwin
We’ve all had those moments where life feels like it’s passing by, and we’re just trying to keep up. You look around and wonder: How did I get here? Is this really it? If you’re feeling lost in life, you’re not alone — and you’re not broken.
There’s a purpose behind this pause. At Wellbeing Tribez, we believe that moments of uncertainty are actually signals. They tell us it’s time to stop, reflect, and begin again — with intention.
In this article, we’ll help you understand:
- Why does that lost feeling show up
- How to reconnect with yourself
- Practical steps to start moving forward again
- How our platform offers guidance grounded in culture, care, and community
Table of Contents
What Being Lost Actually Means — And Why It’s Not a Failure
Feeling lost isn’t about being lazy or unfocused. It’s often a reaction to being out of sync with yourself. Life piles on expectations: family, work, social norms, and sometimes cultural pressures that don’t reflect who you really are.
Here’s what often triggers that lost feeling:
- Suppressing your true interests to “fit in”
- Losing touch with your community or cultural roots
- Going through major life shifts without support
- Trying to meet expectations that don’t reflect your values
Instead of judging yourself, treat this moment as a message: something in your life needs realignment, not judgment.
Why It Helps to Learn From People Who Look Like You
Many self-help guides suggest copying successful people, but not everyone’s path reflects your reality.
We know that wellness hits differently when it’s culturally relevant. That’s why we focus on highlighting Black wellness professionals, mentors, and role models.
When choosing someone to guide or inspire you, look for:
- Shared lived experiences
- Resilience in the face of systemic challenges
- A community-first mindset
You don’t need to follow celebrities. Sometimes, your neighbour, teacher, or community leader is the most powerful example. Seeing someone who has walked a path like yours — and made it through — can be the spark you need.
How to Start Getting Real With Yourself
Many people aren’t living as themselves — they’re performing. Trying to be what others want. That leads to exhaustion, not purpose.
Take a step back and ask:
- What part of myself have I hidden or ignored?
- What do I enjoy when no one’s watching?
- What goals are mine and not handed down by others?
To reconnect:
- Keep a journal and reflect on moments when you felt truly yourself
- Speak with elders or mentors in your community
- Engage with stories and history that reflect your heritage
You can also use tools from Wellbeing Tribez like our Memory Book service to revisit meaningful moments and ground your sense of self in something real.
Improve the Way You Think — Not Just What You Think
When you feel lost, it’s not always your life that’s stuck. Sometimes it’s your thoughts looping the same unhelpful messages.
Learning to think clearly — not just repeat inner chatter — is powerful.
Try this:
- Spend 10 quiet minutes each day reflecting on your thoughts
- Write down one unhelpful belief and reframe it
- Use journaling, prayer, or guided voice recordings (like those from our Remote Studio) to reset your mindset
You don’t have to solve everything at once. You just have to learn which thoughts help you and which ones hold you back.
Action Brings Clarity — Even When You Don’t Feel Ready
Overthinking often disguises itself as preparation. But nothing changes until you do something — even something small.
Start with:
- A short walk without your phone
- Signing up for a community class
- Talking to someone from our Life Coaching or Mental Wellness hubs
Action doesn’t need to be bold. It just needs to be consistent. Once you start, momentum builds. Your mind catches up to your feet.
Put Things Into Perspective Without Minimising Your Experience
It’s easy to feel like your problems are the centre of the universe — but zooming out helps.
We’re all navigating life on a spinning planet, in a vast universe. While your struggles matter, they don’t have to weigh you down forever.
Try to hold both truths:
- You are significant
- And you are also free to let go of things that don’t serve you
This shift doesn’t mean ignoring your pain — it means remembering that you’re allowed to create a life that feels good to you.
Pay Attention to Your Energy, Not Just Your Emotions
Complaining feels good for a moment, but it drains you. The more energy you spend talking about how stuck you are, the less energy you have to change it.
Try this instead:
- Replace a complaint with a decision
- Ask yourself, “What’s one thing I can do today?”
- Track how you feel after venting vs after acting
Small mindset shifts like these, practised over time, are what create long-term change.
You Can Always Choose to Start Again
You don’t have to stay in the identity you’ve built up to now. You can grow. You can reinvent yourself.
This might look like:
- Choosing to show up as a more present parent (explore our Maternal Care & Parental Support)
- Seeking guidance as a young person figuring it all out (use our Youth Mentoring Hub)
- Taking care of your mental and physical health as a first step (browse our Mental Wellness and Physical Wellness categories)
The person you’ll become isn’t someone entirely new — it’s someone more honest.
Conclusion: Reconnect With Yourself and Your Purpose
If you’re feeling lost in life, that’s not the end of your story — it’s the part where you start writing a new one. This feeling is a turning point, not a dead end.
You don’t need all the answers right now. You just need support, structure, and space to become the version of yourself that feels true.
Wellbeing Tribez was created for this moment — for people like you who want to live well, fully, and in alignment with who they are.
Take the first step.
Explore our directory.
Join a community that sees you and supports you.
You’re not lost. You’re just on your way.
